Innuendos

It’s all about the attitude

By TIM GREEN

In a culture where looks are everything, it is no wonder that many people have such low images of themselves.

Some believe that only certain people get to be sexy. I like to think that anyone can be sexy. Sex appeal is not bound to the blonde hair and blue eye model. It does not matter what you look like—you can be sexy, too.

Beauty may be skin deep, but sex appeal is not all on the surface. One does not have to be in the best shape or be the best looking to have a sexy image. Though looks help, they are not a necessity when it comes to being sexy.

For example, Sandra Bernhardt is not the prettiest woman out there, but she exudes sex appeal. She has the kind of confidence a person needs to pull off the sexy attitude.

Although I believe hair, make-up and clothes are superficial, they can help. It is also another belief of mine that when someone looks good, that person feels good. Looking good gives that initial boost of confidence a person needs to step into his or her sexy attitude.

When it comes to sex appeal, confidence is the bottom line. People need to block out those images of our society’s “beautiful ones” and focus on their own images. I know from my own experience it is hard to do that. You look around at other people and wish you could look like them, but you are not them, so you have to work with what you have.

If need be, go out and buy that pair of faded jeans and get that new hairstyle, but remember, sex appeal is primarily an attitude. It is all in your head. I also know that you are the worst judge when it comes to your own looks. Of course, you are bound to see all your flaws; everyone sees his or her own imperfections.

The one thing you must keep in mind is that people will not notice them if you present confidence. Once you go back to your room, you can run to the mirror and obsess about that zit on your face. But when you are out in the public eye, focus on your mind’s “sexy” image of yourself, and that is what people will see.